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Personal Trauma

Have you ever experienced personal trauma in your life? 

Would you share it with others?

How did you overcome it?

I asked these brave volunteers to share their story of trauma and overcoming to maybe give you a spark of hope that you too can overcome the adversities and trials of your life!

(Links to each volunteer provided if you would like to reach out to them further)

Survived Death

Several years ago I died and had 22 minutes of CPR to come back to life. I was and continue to be a nurse practitioner. I recognized multiple troubling physical, emotional and cognitive deficiencies post-resuscitation. Literally crawling back into a life I learned so much about the power needed to not only come back but to master life afterward. I was completely lost, afraid and angry. I was actually suicidal – continually focusing on what was wrong and bad. Finally, out of the depths, I recognized I needed help. I could not go through this alone. I began to ask for and accept help. I engaged trusted friends, family and colleagues asking them what I could and should do and followed through. Things started to get better – I was gaining traction.

I also decided if I was to get my cognitive ability back, I needed to return to school. I earned a master’s degree as well as a doctorate after my survival. My doctoral research expressly involved trauma…looking at others who endured significant harrowing events and eventually and overtime not only survived but thrived; not in spite of what happened but as a direct result of the traumatic event. I created a word to designate this opportunity and capacity for enhanced recovery, Metahabiliation. My research brought forth a better understanding of this ability as well as a clinical pathway guiding one toward a more productive and growth outcome.

This research, as well as post-doctoral inquiry, provided the foundation for my book: Turning Tragedy Into Triumph. Metahabilitation; A Contemporary Model of Rehabilitation.  It also empowered me-provided me with a distinct purpose in life: to assist individuals enduring challenges and traumas to survive but also to growth post-event.

I created a course at Sacramento State, where I just became a full professor, called: Traumatology; An Introduction to Posttraumatic Growth.  My ongoing area of research involves trauma-informed care with an expertise on post-traumatic growth (PTG)…or using traumatic experiences to empower survivors to master their fate and grow. 

Joyce Mikal-Flynn Ed.D, RN, MSN, FNP 
www.metahab.com

Surviving PTSD

I have been diagnosed with PTSD from my mother’s cancer and growing up experiencing child abuse and domestic violence. 
The biggest question I still have that other survivors have told me they also experience is, how to stop feeling like there’s something fundamentally wrong about [themselves]. I have always felt very “others” and I don’t know how to remedy this. It goes beyond feeling like an ~outcast~, it’s a different experience than that. It’s as if people can sense there’s something wrong with me. Like, some primal instinct that gives them a signal I’m diseased and will bring them nothing but strife. And that notion in and of itself is ridiculous! I have many friends and a great job and a loving significant other. All signs point to the ‘otherness’ being a fabrication of my self-conscious mind.
But, then the question is, am I just hiding it well?
 
As I said, other people who have traumatic pasts agree with me on feeling this. No matter how well our lives are going, we still feel like every move is a mistake and everyone knows. It’s quite exhausting, and I’m eager to overcome it!

Natalie H. 

Survived Gas Explosion

I am a survivor of a near-death gas explosion in my mid 20’s. I was literally blown out of my house, lost everything I owned and have 35 stitches on my face and a hole in my head that has since healed. 

I overcame the trauma through tons of yoga, eating clean, self-care and the biggest one was finding my purpose and calling in life. 

When you can find meaning in a trauma is helps you heal. I took the event as a sign that I needed to do more with my life. So I got certified as a health coach and quit my job 2 yrs later and never looked back. I now empower other women to find meaning in their life. 

Jenn Edden, Huntington, NY 
Jenn Edden, CHHC 
Sugar Addiction Expert & Empowerment Coach 

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Survived a Hurricane

On September 6, 2017our home in St. Thomas was destroyed by Hurricane Irma, a category five hurricane that ravaged the island. As I look back on that experience, there were many traumatic moments along the way. The first was watching our home fall apart.

Yes, my family and I were in the house when it was destroyed. We had to run into the bathroom and hide there for hours while the storm passed. Hiding in that bathroom, terrified because I didn’t know if we were really safe there,not knowing what we would do if the roof in the bathroom blew off, sitting on the edge of the bathtub scared while my daughters crouched in the bathtub scared as well and my husband on the verge of tears from the fear was on the worst moments I ever had in my life.

I just sat there and with each moment, I prayed as hard as I could to God to please let us get through this and keep my babies safe. But in reality, I couldn’t even breath. As the hours passed and the storm started to die down, the tension started to release from my shoulders as I slowly began to realize that we made it. We survived unhurt. Little did I know this would just be the beginning of the major changes we were about to go through as a family.

As we came out of that bathroom, like refugees hiding in a bomb shelter, and we saw the destruction in the house, I looked around and told myself, “Now is not the time to think about this. We need to create a shelter where we can spend the night until the daylight comes back.” And that is what I did. I went into auto mode and we used one of the only rooms where the roof was still on, put a couple of mattresses on the floor and spent the night there.

However, what I just did there was put myself on auto mode for this whole experience. When we woke up the next morning, again on auto mode, I told everyone not to worry about the damage in the house, that we need to focus to clear the road, dig ourselves out so that someone can come and get us out of here. My focus was that I could not let my babies sleep there again. So, we spent most of the days cutting down trees and clearing the road so that my father could come and rescue us. Once my father arrived and he took us back to a safe place, we all ate something, our first real meal in almost two days and we took a hot shower. The house he took us to had a full generator and was not damaged. As I sat in that shower, seeing the smiles on my daughter’s faces, I wanted to just burst into tears.

What in the world just happened? How did I get here? But I didn’t want them to see me cry, or anybody else for that matter, so again, I put myself on auto mode. The next few days were about trying to recover what personal items we could from our destroyed homes. Tears filled my eyes everytime I stepped into the house and saw all of our things scattered as if they meant nothing. It got to the point where I couldn’t even go there anymore to salvage items. My husband took over and left me behind to organize what was retrieved. As time went by and I was trying my best to figure out how to make life normal again for my family, Hurricane Maria arrives and creates more destruction on the island.

At this point, we were forced to move to Miami. The trauma of having to break the news to our daughters, who cried because they didn’t want to leave their home, to have to leave all of our loved ones behind, including my father and then packing whatever clothes we could for the journey was overwhelming. I remember arriving in Miami like a zombie. I couldn’t even eat. I just wanted to crawl into bed, pull the covers over my head and hope that the next day I could start again. And this is when we started the journey of building our new life in Miami. It was not easy. The adjustment on my daughter was difficult and building a new home and life for us was no easy task. But we did it.

What I didn’t realize is that I put myself on auto mode for so long, that I didn’t realize I was still in auto mode. I was going through the motions of life but you could tell that mentally I was checked out. Somehow, I made this my way of dealing with all this trauma. But it was not a good way.

It wasn’t until someone said to me, “We are alive. We made it. Just focus on that and be happy.”, that I realized, he’s right. I need to wake up, accept what just happened as a life experience but move on and live life. If anything, this taught me that life is fragile and so important. That, someone, was my husband.  Ten months later, I still remember what happened like it was yesterday and I still shiver at the thought of it. I still struggle with committing to long-term plans because part of me has realized that the future is never certain and can be changed in seconds. But I am working on it. I keep reminding myself every day that we are alive and safe and use that as motivation to get over this traumatic experience and live life with my beautiful family.

God found it necessary for us survive, I can’t let it be for nothing.

(from Trixie…I cried editing this whole piece. When I got to this part, I burst into tears. This is how I feel about my Cancer, my life, my obstacles. If you have survived, triumphed over tragedy, tell yourself this regularly! For some reason, we were meant to survive. We can’t let it be for nothing)

SophiaRosario-Lopez, Life Coach, Law of Attraction

Check out her blog at Thoughts and Feelings

Survived Life’s Constant Obstacles

“Childhood abuse, chronic illness, asthma, depression, anxiety, panic 
attacks and Total Brokenness… 

Auto/Semi Truck accident, Fibromyalgia, Lupus, multiple life-altering 
injuries that left her disabled and bedridden for twelve years… 

Anyone of these could cause someone to quit and stay down… 

But NOT Elizabeth, she’s an overcomer who gets back up and keeps fighting. 
Through her stubbornness, will to survive, and strong faith she manages to 
get up every time and fight to not only to Survive but Thrive. 

She fights not only for herself but for others who are struggling with 
hardships in their life. She earned her Masters Degree in Naturopathic 
Medicine and uses it along with her experiences to spreads her message, 
through professional speaking, writing, and coaching. that you are stronger 
than any adversity that tries to knock you down.” 

Here is her story…

I have experienced many traumas throughout my life, from childhood abuse to an auto/semi accident that left me disabled and bedridden for twelve years. Recovery has been a long road of difficult ups and downs. It always seems just about the time I recover from one blow another comes along.

The traumas I experienced as a child began with being taken from my childhood home, where I had lived my entire life with the only family Iʼd knew, to live with my biological mother and stepfather at the age of six. Soon thereafter the emotional, mental, and physical abuse began.

I spent years as an adult feeling unwanted, unlovable, guilty, and unable to trust anyone. I spent years in counseling, recovering from the total brokenness from my childhood. As a Naturopath, I knew the importance of healing mind, body, emotions, and spirit. I worked hard to recover in all these areas.

After seven long years I was finally back on my feet and ready to pursue my dreams, only to be knocked down again by an auto/semi accident that left me disabled and bedridden for twelve years. You would think after all of this I would just quit, give up and stay down, but an overcomer is one who gets back up and keeps fighting. Through stubbornness, will to survive, and strong faith I manage to get up every time and fight to not only Survive but Thrive.

I am now the CEO of two successful businesses, a professional speaker, and wellness coach. I help others overcome trauma and adversity so that they can relentlessly pursue their dream.

Elizabeth Clamon 
Clamon Natural Health

Finder her at https://www.elizabethclamon.com and https://www.clamonnaturalhealth.com

 

As you can see…

…many other people, including you, have gone through some major personal traumas, adversities, and trials in their life. It never fails to amaze me, the people who can endure great, tragic, horrific and consuming trauma are able to find a way to overcome them. They not only overcome them, they leap over them, they push themselves to endure, persevere, and keep moving forward no matter what. I did not know until 2011, after taking Brave Girl’s Soul Restoration, that I had it in me to overcome. Since then, I have been conquering my obstacles one hurdle at a time. Sometimes those hurdles are small and you just step over them. Sometimes those hurdles in life are pole vaults and you need the “coping mechanisms of life” as your pole to encounter, endure and overcome them.

Regardless, those obstacles in your life, those traumas, those adversities, those trials, those experiences, are not brick walls. You CAN overcome them. You CAN endure. You CAN persevere. You CAN become the fabulous YOU that you were meant to be.

Isn’t it time for you to RISE UP and be the FABULOUS PHOENIX you were meant to be?

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Fabulous Doesn’t Happen Overnight

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A few friends were talking about all my upcoming events and such and one commented on how “all of a sudden”  I popped up over Social Media with my book and now I have the book tour, I am preparing for workshops and book signings and book readings and speaking gigs and more. the person next to us said, “Oh, I assure you, it did not happen overnight!” Then we all laughed and he replied, “Well, you make it look easy”

Funny thing is, I have heard that about my fabulous attitude as well. People always tell me how easy I make overcoming look. How simple I make it all sound. How streamlined I seem to have it and how I embody the term “You’ve Got This!”

Here is the reality behind all of that…

It didn’t happen overnight.

I have a friend who has known me since high school, Ed. I speak about him in my book a few times.  Ed could attest to all the hard times, all the trials, all the adversities I have been through and overcome. He could attest to watching me suffer through a meth addiction. He could attest to me struggling for custody of kids and the heartbreak it caused me and my marriages. He could attest to my issues with men, high school, and becoming an adult amidst all the craziness in my world. He could attest to this struggles in my home, work, and life. Ed could share my stories almost as easily as I probably could.

It wasn’t until 2009 that I started to wake up.

In 2011, I took the first online Soul Restoration course from Brave Girls.

That launched off a series of other transformational blogs, courses, groups, and people.

By 2014 I finally was on the right track. My life was bliss.

In 2015 we moved to Colorado.

In 2016, I was diagnosed with Colon Cancer.

I am not one who feels life is perfect.

I am not perfect.

I am perfect in my imperfections.

I accept and allow now.

I see the silver lining.

I have learned how to handle the rocks life throws at me.

I realize life isn’t pretty and perfect, but I am thankful to be here and I am a realist and optimist. I see life for what it is, but still able to hope for something better for myself, others and the world.

Don’t get down on yourself if you are not quite where you want to be.

Fabulous doesn’t happen overnight.

Things take time.

Overcoming is an art.

I fell into fabulous for you.

My story and my workbook were created with YOU in mind.

You have the option to choose.

In every moment, every minute, every day…we always have the option to choose fabulously, so…

“When given the option of being fabulous, why would you choose anything else?”

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Why I’m Your Quest Leader

For those of you who have not read my book yet, I would like to start off by introducing myself, and why I think I am the right person to lead you on your quest to Be Fabulous. My full name is Patricia Ann Hunter-Merrill, but most of you know me by Trisha Trixie. I am 47 going on 48  (though I don’t look it), and I am a lover of life. I am Fabulous.

Many people who know me, know that I have undergone some dramatic, hard and unbelievable trials and adversity in my life. I was very fragile when younger and even in my twenties, up to my thirties…I believed I was a victim and though I was still smiling, underneath I had NOT released those insecurities and thoughts that were weighing me down. I am a child of divorce, loss of a father at a young age, molested, moved around to different states, raped, beaten, abused, lost my children in multiple custody battles to a manipulator of the system, I was hospitalized, I tried to kill myself on two occasions. I have suffered car breakdowns, loss, homelessness, drug addiction, multiple marriages, horrible breakups, and the list could go on. I once had a counselor ask me how I stayed sane and I replied: “By the grace of someone more powerful than me; that’s for sure!”.

I could have looked at my life and said “I give up” and as I said I tried. When I got my senses back, pulled up my bootstraps and dusted myself off, I realized…

I was actually blessed. I know you might think I am a whack-o-doodle for saying that, however; I think there are many times in life people only see the telescope of life in front of them. I choose to look at the Kaleidoscope of Life. Life is really beautiful; you just have to open your mind to it all. I could have turned away from life, dug myself into a hole and stayed there; I could have pulled the covers up over my head, and told the world I was not going to come out. You may have felt like that as well. The reality is: Life Happens. We need to just get on with it because it is going to go on no matter what. I don’t want to walk around grouchy, grumpy, or angry. I choose to live it in a happy, blissful state of mind. I choose to not let the trials and burdens of life and people weigh me down anymore.

I choose to be me. I choose to Be Fabulous!

Isn’t it time for YOU to Be the Fabulous person you were meant to be?

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My Book Went Live Online TODAY! 5/3/18

“FALLING INTO FABULOUS: A PHOENIX RISING BY TRISHA TRIXIE HUNTER-MERRILL” just went live online today 5/3/2018!! SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!
 
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You Have to Fall Out of Place to Fall Into Fabulous

My So-Called Life

Last October, I was diagnosed with Colon Cancer. To me, this was a big deal, yet at the same time no different than the other things in life I have had to overcome. The only difference is that this time the adversity and the trial was bigger than I was. It made me realize a few things that I wanted to share with you.

If I hadn’t had all the other adversities in my life I hadn’t had all the other child’s I don’t think that I would have been able to handle my cancer diagnosis. Think about it if the first time you ever have any trial in your life the trial is cancer how would it affect you what would go on in your head What would life be like what would your world be like I think you would just be overwhelmed and you wouldn’t know how to overcome it and you wouldn’t know how to think positive you wouldn’t know how to face life with a smile because you know that in the end, the storm passes the clouds disappear the sun in the rain rows come out and you can smile once again

Sometimes life has to fall out of place. Sometimes life has to bring you down.  sometimes I feel like life has to smack you in the face or pull the rug out from underneath you for you to look around and go well what’s going on here what happened why am I in this situation? that’s at least how I look at things I don’t get freaked down anymore when the rug gets pulled out for me underneath me I might have a momentary lapse of reason but don’t we all have that to me that’s just being human what I’m talking about is true real ability to overcome and to face life head-on to see Life as a wonderful experience to see Life as a beautiful lesson until seeing Life as a wonderful gift because it is a gift that’s why it’s called the present

You have to fall out a place to fall into fabulous

You need to see that life has its adversities

You need to see that life has its trials

You need to see that you are not in control

And you need to see that someone else knows everything that you’ve been going through and is there for you and yes it is Heavenly Father but that’s not the only way I believe I believe in a higher power I believe in a Buddhist spiritualist oddly Mormon kind of belief I call myself a Buddhist Mormon because I believe in so many aspirations of the Buddhist world but yet I still call myself a Christian in the Mormon faith because I truly believe that with everything being Christ-centered a Mormon is just as much a Christian as anybody else

I take that spirituality with me wherever I go no matter which way I look at it I still look at it. Life gave me this trial adversity issue problem whatever it may be for a specific reason then I look at what are those reasons why am I going through this not why didn’t happen to me although this time with the cancer I did say why did this happen to me because I’ve been through so much I wondered what other lesson do I have to learn here what lesson do I need someone like me who’s over How much what would I need to actually go through this lesson what is this trying to teach me what I found out that it was trying to teach me was to receive and to allow and that goes to one of my acronyms that I learned in my mindfulness training I also wanted to share with you

Have you ever heard of the acronym called RAIN? R.A.I.N

The R stands for Recognize

We need to recognize what’s going on we need to be aware we need to be present we need to see life as it is we need to be in our body and recognize what’s going on in our Bonnie we need to be present  outside of our body and find out what’s going on our body and what’s coming outside of it how are people treating us how are we allowing people to treat us and how are we handling those situations how is the world treating us and how are we handling those situations as well it’s all about recognizing being aware being present

The A stands for Allow

We need to allow those things to happen in our lives I think far too many times we fight off I don’t want that that doesn’t suit me that doesn’t fit in my plan right now I’m sorry I can’t do this world I’m sorry I can’t do this life and so we were treat and we don’t allow we hold everything inside of our bodies inside our hearts inside our thoughts and we don’t tell people how we really feel we don’t talk openly about the hurt that they may be causing us or perhaps even the hurt that life might be causing us we need to openly allow these things and say this is happening I allow it I may not like it but it’s still going to happen either way this is what I feel about process we may hate process but it’s still going to happen the laundry still needs to get done the dishes still need to get done stuff still has to happen if you’re not going to do those laundry or do the dishes yet by something like by paper plates or whatever and so you don’t have to do the dishes that’s fine but now that becomes your process buying paper plates for every time you don’t want to do the dishes see if you look around you. It’s all about perspective I talked about this a lot lately because I truly see that it really is about perspective it’s how you look at things do you look at life with a sad heart angry mad at the world why are these things happening to you how come you can’t get out of these circumstances why does this happen over and over? these are questions that I want you to explore and I want you to ask their self and then you only you will be able to answer those questions

The I stands for Investigate

this is the time when we really investigate what’s going on in our lives this is the time that we ask those questions why did this happen not why did this happen to me but why did this happen we ask herself questions like what do I have to learn from this lesson how can I apply this to my life how can I change this or how can I transform because I don’t want this anymore how can I release myself of toxic people and toxic things ask yourself over and over again one question of the other you know the questions that your body and your mind wants to be answered allow and investigate those questions to happen and then answer them honestly real rough raw authentic and wholeheartedly

The last one is N for Non-Identify

This is where we step outside of ourselves this is like asking her friend hey this is what I’m going through what do you think of this this is like asking ourselves those questions and looking back and seeing it again from a different perspective if you were the friend talking to you what guidance would you give to that friend now take that ask yourself those questions and give the guidance to yourself that you would be giving a friend that’s not identifying stepping outside of yourself and seeing things in a different light.

This is all part of falling into fabulous. You see as I said before sometimes you need to fall apart before you can fall into fabulous you need to be destroyed before you can be remade you need to be distracted before you can be reborn and you need to fall down to the depths of the ashes sometimes until you can rise up and be the Phoenix The Fabulous Phoenix that you were all meant to be I’m not the only Phoenix in this world I never claim to me and I never will I just think to be a phoenix because I have risen From the Ashes I have risen from the world that has given me nothing but trial and tribulation since I was 8 years old and I’m now 47 so count them that’s a lot of years to have to go through trial tribulation adversity loss and all the other many things that I’ve learned to overcome

I often say I know you can do it because I’ve done it too I don’t mean that to sound trite I seriously mean that I honestly feel that if I can overcome these things if I can overcome depression if I can overcome anxiety if I can overcome rape and molestation if I can overcome homelessness by can overcome loss of the custody of my children if I can overcome loss of businesses and loss of money if I can overcome cancer you can 2

Did you hear me? I said if I can do it you can too!

So are you finally ready to rise are you ready to rise up and overcome those things and obstacles toxic relationships that are in your life? if you’re ready to rise up and you’re ready to change go over to my page called The Risen and come join me in our group and I will help you to rise by my book and work with me in my workbook and let’s rise up together and show the world how fabulous you can really be.

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It’s Time to Be Fabulous

Break through those barriers that held you back.

Break through the walls that were keeping you from moving on.

Break through to see past the old you into the new you that you need to be, want to be and were destined to be.

It’s time for introspection.

It’s time for fabulous.

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Take Your Eyes Off the Storm

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We often look at life like it is a thunderous, raging storm and can only see the clouds and rain upon us. We all know when the storms are over, the sun will shine and the rainbows and promises will come back out. So, if we know that, then why do we only see the clouds and gray skies when we are in the middle of the storm?

We need to shift our focus, change our perspective and in essence, take our eyes off the storm and look past the horizon to the beauty the awaits you. Once the storm is over, we rarely even remember what that fight was even about. Think about those fights you had with a spouse or a friend from years ago. do you really recall every detail about what is was about and do you even really care. Most likely not.  To that point, when you think about the storms in your life, you most likely won’t remember them and you won’t even remember how you made it through and how you survived it. You will look back in wonder and amazement more than anything else surprised that you are still standing where you are today.

Once out of the storm and onto the other side, if and when you look back, you won’t even recognize yourself. It is like looking back in a mirror that disfigures yourself. You won’t be the same person as when you walked through that storm. You will be a new you, a new character, with new values, with new faith in yourself and perhaps a higher being. You will be a whole, brand new you.

That is what the storm is all about. Growth. Change. Challenge. Character Building.

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Have you ever watched the trees in a storm?

How they sway to and fro? Sometimes their branches break and fall to the ground and sometimes leaves are scattered abroad, but how many trees do you notice are completely uprooted? I am not saying none, because, I have seen a few, but that is rare. Those ones maybe needed a complete “uprooting” , but in the most part, the storms make the trees dig deeper into the ground and take deeper roots and become stronger so they can withstand anything.

Plus, there are some things you never learn in life is life is all roses and sunshine. You must learn them in a storm.

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You build character. This teaches me how to resolve challenges during this time. I learn how to deal with conflict. I learn how to handle conflict resolution. I take stock during this time and take a deep, deep dive look within. I honestly don’t think many people can do this. I believe I am a quite rare individual who has the capacity to do this.

You learn to stand on your own two feet. Oft times this is where I find out who my friends are and who they aren’t. I learn what I can handle alone and what I can’t. I learn when I need to ask for help.

You build a testimony. I learn so much more about myself and the world during these times.

You build your faith. I’m not just talking about in a higher power here either. I am talking about faith in others, faith in yourselves.

You may realize a defining moment during this time in your life. Often this time in your life when things change, you pivot, you grow, you turn your life around. This is that one time,t hat “moment” that spun everything on a dime and your whole life changed. Maybe this is when you finally “woke up”.

You will grow. All of this comes down to the fact that you will grow. Science says we stop growing after adulthood. In size…yes. In everything else…we continue to grow in character, strength, values, nurture, nature, knowledge, acceptance, love, and the list goes on.

As I have said earlier and for those who know me, I face my storms head on. I don’t cower or hide under the covers. Do I want to? HELL YEAH. I get scared too. I actually don’t like conflict either but I learned a very long time ago that hiding gets me nowhere. I am still going to have to do that math problem I don’t want to do, or face that person who I don’t want to face, or deal with that trial I don’t want to deal with. I learned that if I am going to have to face it anyway, I might as well just get it over with.

When I started being the one to face my fears first and jumping into the lions den, I also learned I had the better advantage. I had the upper hand. I was prepared, I was ready to fight and I had all the tools I needed to do so. It didn’t mean the fight wasn’t hard, it still was hard, but in the end, one way or the other I came out victorious, even if I lost the fight, because I gained what it taught me!

Did you catch that?

EVEN IF I LOST THE FIGHT, I STILL WON BECAUSE I GAINED WHAT IT TAUGHT ME

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This is important for to share with you because I think that many people think that winning the battles are all about truly winning those battles and they are not. It is about what you learn about yourself going through those storms, going through those battles and how you come out on the other side.

You ARE fabulous!

You have always BEEN fabulous.

My message is more than the “You are enough” story. That message is great, but I want to share more than that. Yes you are enough. You already were enough. You were fabulous from the beginning. You were enough from the beginning. We all were.

However, ever a piece of metal is only a piece of metal until is is forged in fire and the master works it and then it becomes a beautiful blade of steel that become a magnificent sword for a knight to yield.

We must go through the storms of life to learn from these trials and to grow. We must look to the horizon and see the beauty that awaits us on the other side and know that we can get through these trials that we encounter and know that we can do it, we can face it together.

We will be strong.

We will be faithful.

We will overcome.

We will survivors.

We will be victorious.

We will be warriors for our future!

Xoxo,

Trisha Trixie

#BeFabulous

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Fabulous, Fall Into Fabulous, Loving Kindness

Loving Yourself is NOT a Slap in the Face: Loving Kindness Meditation The Trixie Way

Everyday I do a Loving Kindness meditation on Calm.com  The more I do this, the more I feel the abundance of love within myself, for others I know and for those I don’t.  I have shared this with friends, new acquaintances and even with those online. I have heard from many that they feel like when they do it (the meditation), it can seem like a slap in the face to them and that at first they don’t resonate with it. Then they feel stupid and dumb. Then they go through the beating-them-self-up phase. Of course, this is counterproductive, not the desired effect of feel loving kindness toward themselves and others.  So now what? Now what do they do?

Get out of your head. 

Now get back in your head.

Change your thinking to this…

I want you to focus on one simple thought.

Breathe.

Turn on http://www.calm.com or some other soothing music. I like to do the one with the bells or chimes to keep bringing me back to the moment, but put on something without words, something soothing and calming….

…………………………………………

I want you to focus simply on your breath. Breathing in ‘I know that I am breathing in’. Breathing out ‘I know that I am breathing out’. That’s it. That is all I want you to think about. Over and over and over. If you feel like you have that mastered, THEN and only then do we want to move on to Love.

LOVE

When I am breathing out love I like to move my hands with it. I move my hands almost as if dancing, like swaying movements inwards towards my body, like I am drinking it in when breathing in and when giving it out I am pouring it out of my body. You can just breathe it in or out; you do what comes natural to you. It is your exercise, it is all up to you.

Breathe love into the parts of your body you DO love. Do you love that weird quirky little toe of yours? Breathe love into it. Literally, take a deep breathe in and then, when you breathe out, breathe out all the air onto that weird quirky little toe. Do that over and over, even to the parts of your body you can’t see. Now, those parts you don’t like, breathe love to those too. Every part of you needs love.

Now, think about the people that you  love. Breathe in a good deep breath and then breathe out love to them. Breathe love to as many or as few people as you do or don’t want.

Now think about those people that you are having difficulties with or issues with. Breathe in a deep breath, and when you breathe out, breathe love to them too. Again, as little or as many people as you like.

Take your time, no rush.

Now, think about all beings. Breathe in love for all beings and then breathe out and pour out love to all beings. I like to open my arms out as wide as they can be, like when your mom used to ask you ” how much do you love me?” and you would open your arms really wide and say “THIS MUCH!” yesssss….that much…..

Then, when you are done with that, take a moment and do a couple of cleansing breaths…

Then slowly wiggle your toes, wiggle your fingers….and open your eyes…

When I am finished, I generally have tears in my eyes. I am so full of compassion and love for my fellow human being, my heart is so full it is like the Grinch story. It is as if my heart has grown ten times or more!

Opening your heart is NOT a slap in the face. Opening your heart to love, is scary, and THAT my friends  is the slap that scares you.

Do not let that win.

Do not allow the world to win.

YOU! ARE! FABULOUS!

You may have fallen. Maybe you are in the dirt now. There is nowhere to look but up. Take the rocks and build the bridge that will help you get across. Take the dirt and rain from the storms and make a home.  Your life is up to you. You get to choose the outcome.

Love yourself today, and every day. Stop slapping yourself. Start loving  yourself today. Start loving those you hate. Start loving all beings. Start seeing how different your life can and will be when you make this change towards loving kindness. Fall into Fabulous…what are you waiting for?

Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you.
Fabulous, Fall Into Fabulous

Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you.

Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you.

Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you.
Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you.